Creative Writing — Stevie Bowen

In 2021, I published my first book, The City of Dating, A Memoir. After its publication, I founded the dating and relationship wellness website, The City of Dating featuring my weekly dating advice column. I am a contributor at Residence 11, The City of Dating, & more!

As a lifestyle writer and dating journalist, I aim to normalize dating and socialization as an opportunity for growth and connection, as opposed to a means to an end. My work focuses on challenging today’s culture by drawing attention to stories of diverse backgrounds, dating/intimacy wellness, and relationship (platonic/romantic) building.

I am available for guest essays, articles, interviews, and blog posts. Please see my contact details to connect!

The City of Dating, A Memoir, is a hilariously unique look into the truths of New York City dating through Stevie Bowen’s honest and daringly real thank you letters to past dates… or lack thereof.

Facing the new millennial horrors of online dating, ghosting, and finance bros, Stevie shares her personal struggles with navigating relationships, hollow crushes, and one-night-stands in the excitingly daunting big city. In her search for self-love, she finds friendship at the core of her story. She makes an unwavering group of best friends who guide her through the complicated life of dating. In this unapologetic personal memoir, she bares hard lessons of love, desires, and self-discovery.

A brilliant nod to strong, independent women everywhere!

You will constantly relate to the intimate and bittersweet memories of heartbreak and happiness. Stevie’s thank you letters will inspire you to put yourself out there once again and embrace the soulmates you find along the way—your best friends!

Available on thecityofdating.com and all ebook platforms.

The City of Dating, A Memoir By Stevie Bowen

How to Navigate Wedding Season as a Singleton

LIFESTYLE - Published by Residence 11
The aisles are laid, and flowers are blooming, ready for brides and grooms to cascade down in harmonious bliss. Wedding season is creeping up behind us, like the ghosts of our past dates. The ones that leave us, or maybe never even committed to us, right before the season begins. Being single during wedding season is already a feat, but what if you aren’t in the same place as the couple? Maybe your vision for your relationships or even your life as an individual looks different?

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What Is Rizz? And Do I Have It?

POP CULTURE - Published by The CIiy of Dating
Anything less than shocking, a new Gen Z word has risen, again, from the TikTok algorithm. Rizz, the pop culture word of the moment, is popping up on our group texts, social media, and bar scene. After its induction into my orbit through friends, the word found its way to me a few days later in no other place but Los Angeles… Since before my own rizzing, the Gen Z word has taken alternative meanings. But according to its creator, Kai Cenat, NYC Twitch, and Youtuber, the true meaning of rizz has gotten lost in the sauce of TikTok.

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Samantha Approved Awkward Sex & the City

COMEDY SHOW REVIEW - Published by The City of Dating
New York City isn’t just the city of dating, it is notoriously also the city of sex. All the movies and shows you’ve seen highlighting the sex lives of New York residents only skim the surface of this intricately cringey world. The sex depicted in Gossip Girl (pre disappointing reboot), Girls, or even Michael B. Jordan’s orange penis in That Awkward Moment doesn’t capture the concerningly alluring New York City sex world.

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Why Bowling Alleys Are Becoming the New Hot Spot for Singles & Dating

LIFESTYLE - Published by The City of Dating
The world is not shy of trend resurgence. From the 2000s dress-over-jeans (millennials be scared) to the increasing sale of record players, society is attracted to the novelty of the past, and dating is not immune to a new craze. Whether you’re sporting the 90s punk eyeliner on a date or headed to a singles event in your city, our dating lives twist and turn with the times. Now, instead of shooting our shot at the cutie across the bar, we’ll be shooting our shot at 10 pins.

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The Perfect, Not So Perfect, Bumble Date

ARTICLE - Published by Residence 11
There you were—blond, tall, and uniquely handsome, standing perfectly on the corner of Greenwich and Eleventh Street. Our first meeting went as one would want every Bumble meeting to. The perfect, not-so-awkward hug. I remember you ushering me through the door of the bar so effortlessly I thought to myself, “Maybe this could be something.

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Which Dating App Should I Use? A Personal Guide.

DATING TIPS - Published by The City of Dating
It’s no secret daters have been inundated with dating apps over the past few years. Since the turn of society in 2020, the art of dating online became increasingly popular. Yet, as the world is healing, our desire to live only on the apps is dying. IRL connections came back to challenge the Hinge monster competing for the dater’s love. What meet-cutes don’t understand is dating apps are immortal. They are a crucial coded artery in our technology-driven world.

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Chill Sesh With Our Founder

BLOG POST - Blaize Culture
A look into the Lips & Hips collab with Floridian designer Taterballz.

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What is Lucky Girl Syndrome? And, Why Is It Triggering?

POP CULTURE - Published by The City of Dating
Lucky Girl Syndrome has inspired countless women to claim their own luckiness, the unconvinced to question its validity, and others to see it as a sign of privilege. Like everything that rises in pop culture, it has created a stir in the debate world. On our end, the questions that popped up while we watched the world get lucky are as follows… are these videos triggering? Can the mantra be translated into our dating lives? Does it still work if we don’t post the practice on TikTok? Here’s our take.

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How to Stop Over-Romanticizing Potential Relationships and Partners

MENTAL WELLNESS - Published by The City of Dating
Our minds make it too easy to drift into the future of our potential relationships. Once our feelings for someone bubble inside us, the carbonation reaches our brains, spurting new ideas and thoughts. The excitement of someone new is one that should be felt. Allowing our hearts to flutter in the potential is important, but there’s a line of romance that we cross from time to time. The line from healthy thinking to over-romanticizing.

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